Wednesday, August 12, 2026
For the
commandments say, “You must not commit adultery. You must not murder. You must
not steal. You must not covet.” These - and other such commandments - are
summed up in this one commandment: “Love your neighbour as yourself.” (Romans 13:9, New Living Translation)
That same article quotes a study
out of the University of Arizona that claims that we are using fewer and fewer
actual words as the years go by – over a 30% drop since 2005. We are simply
talking to one another less and less. There is a decrease in human interaction.
We have fewer real conversations with others. Covid probably refined and enabled this trend
of isolation. Think about how reluctant workers have been to return to their offices
and work-places. Yet apparently, there is also an increase in loneliness. People
are distant from one another. There are fewer face-to-face interactions, even
simple casual ones like talking to a clerk, cashier, salesperson, gas attendant,
etc. It seems we are on our own and it is costing us.
“Love your neighbour as yourself”
speaks to this world of me-maxxing. The
Apostle Paul is, of course, quoting Jesus, one of the rare instances that he
does that. Perhaps, that emphasises the more their importance. The words are in
all three Gospels save John’s Gospel. In Matthew, an expert in the Law asked
Jesus what was the most important commandment. Jesus replied, “You must love
the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind.’ This
is the first and greatest commandment. A second is equally important: ‘Love
your neighbour as yourself.’” (Matthew 22:37) The words “equally important”
have always caught my attention. Loving
our neighbour is as important as loving God. This is echoed in John’s epistle.
“Dear friends, let us continue to love one another, for love comes from God.
Anyone who loves is a child of God and knows God. But anyone who does not love
does not know God, for God is love.” (1 John 4: 7 -8)
Paul is also using the same
words. Note how he puts these words in the context of the Ten Commandments, but
only using the commandments that deal with social relationships between people,
the nuts of bolts of what love for one another must look like. Interactions with others are vital for a
healthy character development but these interactions, these relationships, also
must be treated with respect, trust, tolerance, acceptance, and appreciation,
even the most minor ones.
“If you’ve gotten anything at
all out of following Christ, if his love has made any difference in your life,
if being in a community of the Spirit means anything to you, if you have a
heart, if you care—then do me a favor: Agree with each other, love each other,
be deep-spirited friends. Don’t push your way to the front; don’t sweet-talk
your way to the top. Put yourself aside, and help others get ahead. Don’t be
obsessed with getting your own advantage. Forget yourselves long enough to lend
a helping hand.” (Philippians 2: 3 -4, The Message Bible)
Me-maxxing is a temptation. I am
introverted, private and somewhat reclusive. I like living quietly in my little
hole-in-the-wall, you in your small corner and I in mine. But I am well aware
that I need other people, and sometimes, people need me. Our building is a very
friendly building. We tend to look out
for each other. I have made an effort to get to know many by name. In some cases,
I have learned about some of their personal concerns, interests and lives. I take
the time to listen. I carry on
conversations, sometimes just about the weather but sometimes, I listen to their
stories, about their families, their illnesses, their circumstances. That’s not being especially virtuous, but it
is being human, being relational, being friendly, being involved.
Please, find a “neighbour” and show then some love!
Our loving God, open
our eyes that we might see who is our neighbour. May we treat them as we would
have them treat us. Free us from the blinders of self-interest, judgment, intolerance,
prejudice, mistrust. Grant us the skills of conversation, relationship and
community-building. Challenge is with your Love that we may love one another
just as you have loved us. In Jesus’ name, amen.