Wednesday, March 18, 2026 – Lent Five
“And what were all
the flocks and herds I met as I came?” Esau asked. Jacob replied, “They are a
gift, my lord, to ensure your friendship.” “My brother, I have plenty,” Esau
answered. “Keep what you have for yourself.” But Jacob insisted, “No, if I have
found favor with you, please accept this gift from me. And what a relief to see
your friendly smile. It is like seeing the face of God!” (Genesis 33: 8 -10, New Living Translation)
Faces tell a story, don’t they?
Our faces reflect our moods and demeanor. I can think of several times when
someone told me to smile, that I was looking too grim or serious. It was not
how I was feeling at all, but my face is “set” that way, so that I guess that I
don’t always look friendly or happy. Even so, faces can be a natural indication
of the person inside. When we greet someone, our faces are the first impression
that another person has of us. A warm,
friendly smile says more than any number of words.
There was a recent article in
the Globe and Mail by Nolan Bryant which celebrates a genuine smile as an important
quality of life to have. “In a world of unceasing bad news, there is
something quite revolutionary about an authentic smile.” He claims that “the
smile has become countercultural.” It got me to thinking that a smile is a
bridge towards someone else. A smile needs to be shared. Receiving a smile makes us feel better,
welcome, safe, connected. Our smiles do the same for others. Think of the
efforts we go through to make a baby smile, all sorts of silly sounds and noises,
and what utter pleasure and gift it is when the child responds accordingly.
One of my favourite songs is
Charlie Chaplin’s “Smile,” either the Nat King Cole version or the Gregory
Porter one. “Smile though your heart is aching, Smile even
though it's breaking When there are clouds in the sky You'll get by.” I am not advocating that we hide our problems
behind a false bravado. Faking happiness
is no road to true happiness. When life has wiped the smiles off our faces, it
is time to seek help and counsel. But I
also think there is a benefit to dig deep and find the significant joys and blessings
that put a smile on our faces. Not forced, not phoney, not coerced, not smarmy,
not sneering, but a smile that comes from the heart and perhaps, from the heart
of God. “Let your face smile on us, Lord.” (Psalm 4:6)
The brothers, Jacob and Esau,
had a very broken relationship. In fact, Esau was ready to kill his brother for
stealing his birthright. Jacob had fled as far away as possible. But now, after
many years, and building up his personal wealth, Jacob decided to return home and
see if he can make amends with his brother. He hopes that his wealth can buy Esau’s
favour as he offers his brother all sorts of gifts. Like the prodigal son, Jacob
laments his unworthiness: “I am not worthy of all the unfailing love and
faithfulness you have shown to me, your servant.” (Genesis 32:10) When the two men met, each
accompanied by a large force of people with them, it looked ominous. But instead, “Esau ran to meet him and
embraced him, threw his arms around his neck, and kissed him. And they both
wept.” (Genesis 33:4)
Like the father of the prodigal son,
Esau embraced his long, lost brother. Jacob realized his exorbitant gifts had no
use in the act of reconciliation. His finds his redemption solely in the smile
of his brother. “It is like seeing the face of God!” A true, sincere, authentic
smile reunites the brothers. Helping to
erase the bitterness, the animosity and the resentment. A smile reaches across the
abyss of their brokenness and brings new beginnings.
That's the time you must keep on trying
Smile, what's the use of crying?
You'll find that life is still worthwhile
If you'll just smile
Prayer:
Our loving God, there is indeed
much sorrow and hardship in right now. We confess we find it is hard to find
good reason to smile. Yet, help us to understand that we are also surrounded by
your creative grace and wondrous blessing that invite us to find true joy in
our living. May we then share our smiles with each other readily and sincerely
so that we build bridges of compassion and forgiveness between brothers and
sisters in family and in our communities. In Jesus’ name, Amen.