Wednesday, August 12, 2026

For the commandments say, “You must not commit adultery. You must not murder. You must not steal. You must not covet.” These - and other such commandments - are summed up in this one commandment: “Love your neighbour as yourself.” (Romans 13:9, New Living Translation)

               “Me-maxxing” is a new term which I have discovered. It is the evolution of the me-decade from a  few decades ago in which the lure off self-fulfillment was front and centre in many people’s lives. But now our modern technology has refined and polished our ability to have our personal sacrosanct worlds revolve around each of us, individually, if we so choose. Our use of the internet and our cell phones is limiting the interaction we have with others. We text instead of call.  We get our money from ATM without seeing a human teller. We order take-in  food from our phones and barely thank the driver who delivers it or he or she just leaves it outside our doors. We can use the self-checkouts at the grocery store or pharmacy. We limit our choices with people on-line. Some are having a “relationship” with an AI avatar.  In the article I read, it says, “As a result, the optimization of my time also means I’m skipping those moments of human exchange, all to save a few saved minutes.” It seems that we are on our own and many like it that way.

                That same article quotes a study out of the University of Arizona that claims that we are using fewer and fewer actual words as the years go by – over a 30% drop since 2005. We are simply talking to one another less and less. There is a decrease in human interaction. We have fewer real conversations with others.  Covid probably refined and enabled this trend of isolation. Think about how reluctant workers have been to return to their offices and work-places. Yet apparently, there is also an increase in loneliness. People are distant from one another. There are fewer face-to-face interactions, even simple casual ones like talking to a clerk, cashier, salesperson, gas attendant, etc. It seems we are on our own and it is costing us.

                “Love your neighbour as yourself” speaks to this world of me-maxxing. The Apostle Paul is, of course, quoting Jesus, one of the rare instances that he does that. Perhaps, that emphasises the more their importance. The words are in all three Gospels save John’s Gospel. In Matthew, an expert in the Law asked Jesus what was the most important commandment. Jesus replied, “You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. A second is equally important: ‘Love your neighbour as yourself.’” (Matthew 22:37) The words “equally important” have always caught my attention.  Loving our neighbour is as important as loving God. This is echoed in John’s epistle. “Dear friends, let us continue to love one another, for love comes from God. Anyone who loves is a child of God and knows God. But anyone who does not love does not know God, for God is love.” (1 John 4: 7 -8)

                Paul is also using the same words. Note how he puts these words in the context of the Ten Commandments, but only using the commandments that deal with social relationships between people, the nuts of bolts of what love for one another must look like.  Interactions with others are vital for a healthy character development but these interactions, these relationships, also must be treated with respect, trust, tolerance, acceptance, and appreciation, even the most minor ones.

                “If you’ve gotten anything at all out of following Christ, if his love has made any difference in your life, if being in a community of the Spirit means anything to you, if you have a heart, if you care—then do me a favor: Agree with each other, love each other, be deep-spirited friends. Don’t push your way to the front; don’t sweet-talk your way to the top. Put yourself aside, and help others get ahead. Don’t be obsessed with getting your own advantage. Forget yourselves long enough to lend a helping hand.” (Philippians 2: 3 -4, The Message Bible)

                Me-maxxing is a temptation. I am introverted, private and somewhat reclusive. I like living quietly in my little hole-in-the-wall, you in your small corner and I in mine. But I am well aware that I need other people, and sometimes, people need me. Our building is a very friendly building.  We tend to look out for each other. I have made an effort to get to know many by name. In some cases, I have learned about some of their personal concerns, interests and lives. I take the time to listen.  I carry on conversations, sometimes just about the weather but sometimes, I listen to their stories, about their families, their illnesses, their circumstances.  That’s not being especially virtuous, but it is being human, being relational, being friendly, being involved.

                Please, find a “neighbour” and  show then some love!

 Prayer:

Our loving God, open our eyes that we might see who is our neighbour. May we treat them as we would have them treat us. Free us from the blinders of  self-interest, judgment, intolerance, prejudice, mistrust. Grant us the skills of conversation, relationship and community-building. Challenge is with your Love that we may love one another just as you have loved us. In Jesus’ name, amen.